Unconventional
strategy 7: Don’t wait for a cataclysmic moment when the truth is revealed. Use
everyday occurrences to find meaning in the changes you are going through.
Practice telling and retelling your story. Over time, it will clarify.
Major career
transitions take three to five years. The big “turning point”, if there is one,
tends to come late in the story. In the interim, make use of anything as a
trigger. Don’t wait for a catalyst. What you make of events is more important
than the events themselves. Take advantage of whatever life sends your way to
revise, or at least reconsider, your story. Practice telling it in different
ways to different people, in much the same way you would revise a resume and
cover letter for different jobs. But don't just tell the story to a friendly
audience; try it out on skeptics. And don't be disturbed when the story changes
along the way.
Unconventional
strategy 8: Step back. But not for too long.
When you get stuck
and are short on insight, take time to step back from the fray to reflect on how
and why you are changing. Even as short a break as a day's hike in the country
can remove the blinders of habit. But don't stay gone too long, or it will be
hard to reel yourself back in. Only through interaction and active engagement in
the real world do we discover ourselves.
Unconventional
strategy 9: Change happens in bursts and starts. There are times when you are
open to big change and times when you are not. Seize opportunities.
Windows of
opportunity open and close back up again. We go through periods when we are
highly receptive to major change and periods when even incremental deviations
from "the plan" are hard to tolerate.' Take advantage of any natural windows
(e.g., the period just after an educational program or assuming a new position;
a milestone birthday) to start off on the right foot. Communicate to others that
you have changed (and will be making more changes). Watch out for the insidious
effect of old routines. Progress can be served by hanging in limbo, asking
questions, allowing time and space to linger between identities. But don't let
unanswered questions bog you down; move on, even if to an interim commitment.