at things and never fail; we may also believe that if we are good and try hard, then life should always go smoothly
9 labelling we label ourselves as a born loser instead of trying to learn from the situation or thinking about the best way to overcome it
10 blame we automatically hold other people responsible for our pain or take the other take and blame ourselves entirely for every problem or reversal, when the event (such as a redundancy) might be happening to many others
11 mind reading - without their saying so, we know what people are feeling and why they act the way they do; in particular, we are able to divine how people are feeling toward us; we think that our assumptions about what others are thinking are true.
12 catastrophizing - we expect disaster. We notice or hear about a problem and start 'what-ifs'. What if tragedy strikes? What if it happens to me? We immediately assume the worst possible outcome; this is our style.
13 personalizing - we think that everything people do or say is some kind of reaction to us; we compare ourselves to others, try to determine who's smarter or better looking; we tend to relate everything around you to ourselves.
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