Instead of looking for ways to reinforce our beliefs, we need to find validation that will transform our negative assumptions into positive ones. The steps I am suggesting are these:
1. Identify the restricting beliefs and the negative assumptions that
reinforce those beliefs.
Start with a single restricting belief. Don’t make your goal so ambitious that you sabotage yourself. In his book, Awaken the Giant Within, author Tony Robbins writes about breaking old belief systems by visualizing a negative situation in ways—often comical—that minimize its power. If the source of the restricting belief is a person, see that person reduced in size, just as your dimensions grow. Place the person far away, or locked in a container, or only as a cartoon with a squeaky voice. If it’s a place, play with size and structure so that its qualities become less than life-sized. When you feel progress with converting the restricting belief you tackled, select another.
The idea of beliefs (positive and negative) is linked to a long-standing body of work that espouses the idea that you manifest what you believe. Norman Vincent Peale became a household name in 1952 with the publication of his best-seller, The Power of Positive Thinking. More recently, in 1996, David Spangler published a popular book entitled EveryDay Miracles—The Inner Art of Manifestation. Both works, written more than forty years apart, support a common theme—we can help shape our reality by attention to our thoughts and feelings. The idea of turning around negative beliefs by finding positive alternatives is a life-affirming commitment worthy of attention.
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