creating sustainable results in growth and performance
Always
keep in mind that you are not here on earth to live up to anyone’s
expectations – including your own. You need never answer any demand -
yours or someone else’s – that causes you pain or that asks you to
sacrifice your integrity. Stop trying to act kind and realise that the
kindest act of all is to help another see through the hoax of unhappiness
– yours or theirs. If you allow others to tell you where you are going,
then you must also depend on them to tell you what you will need for your
journey.
Notice
the hidden connection between these two seemingly different worlds (the
outside world and our inside world). It is our demands on ourselves that
result in the vicious circle of the worldly demands – they are linked. As
this connection grows clearly, so will your understanding about the only
way to answer ALL of their demands.
WHEN
YOU EXPECT A SPECIFIC OUTCOME any of these reactions may occur:
1.
You are often nervous and anxious because life may
not cooperate with your plans.
2.
You are willing to sacrifice whatever it takes to get
what you want, and this may
include your integrity.
3.
You are usually scheming in some way to win your next
victory.
4.
You are either in a battle or recovering from one.
5.
You are unable to rest quietly when you need to.
6.
You are easily upset when someone or something gets
in your way.
7.
You are forever driven to want something else.
8.
You are against anyone else who also wants what you
want.
9.
You are certain that what you have is who you are.
10.
You are always trying to convince yourself that you
got what you want.
WHEN
YOU WANT WHAT LIFE WANTS:
1.
You are never disappointed with what happens
2.
You are always in the right place at the right time
3.
You are quietly confident, no matter what the
circumstances.
4.
You are out of the reach of upset and anxiety.
5.
You are awake and sensitive to your surroundings.
6.
You are free of ever feeling as though you’ve missed
out.
7.
You are never thrown for a loss.
8.
You are in total command of events.
9.
You are mentally quiet.
10.
You are eternally appreciative.
A
simple guideline to follow to distinguish between what Life wants and my
expectations – how can I easily tell which is which? If any want is the
source of anxiety or sorrow, that want is YOURS and not LIFE’s. If the
want has pain, it is in vain. To let Real Life flood in, pull yourself
out of the flood of self-wants that promise a future pleasure but only
deliver a present pain.
How do
I pull myself out of the flood of my own wants and expectations? SEE that
you are being controlled by them and you will grow tired of this. Never
accept the presence of any mental or emotional suffering as necessary, no
matter how much importance these imposters lend to a particularly pressing
want or expectation. By refusing their dark presence, you make space for
the real Present. This is where the Life you want and that wants you is
waiting.
No
human controls life – theirs or anyone else’s. The only thing you will
lose by learning to want what life wants is your fear of not being in
control – which was never real control in the first place but only a
sensation of it born out of living with its painful opposite. No human
being needs control over life because, in reality, no one is apart from
it. Who you really are, your True Nature, is not separate from life.
Let
life bring you itself. Welcome it. At each instant it is new, full –
untouched and undiminished by any moment before it. Fulfilling the true
purpose of life is fulfilling yourself. They are one and the same. Want
What Life Wants.
Practical steps: start by giving yourself permission to be just as
dissatisfied as you really are with your present life. The clearer it
becomes to you that you are not really satisfied with the kind of life you
have been giving to yourself, the sooner you will welcome the possibility
of a very different kind of life, that isn’t self generated.
We
always assume that the cause of our dissatisfaction lies in how Life has
treated us. Now we are learning that our feelings of unhappiness and
incompleteness aren’t born out of how Life how treated us, but rather by
what we have been calling Life. Calling our up and down feelings Real Life
does not make them so. As you become increasingly dissatisfied with where
this kind of life has taken you, with what it has given you, you naturally
begin to lose interest in its existence. This is a very healthy act.
When
you are no longer automatically identified with this limited world of up
and down sensations, you start to become aware of a totally new kind of
innerworld. You begin to discover that all the stimulating sensations you
thought were giving you life were actually separating you from it. You
step into the Real World as you begin to realize that everything is
already complete – including you.
