creating sustainable results in growth and performance
You
have a very special and secret part of yourself that you don’t as yet know
belongs to you. It is not in another’s power to do for you what you must
do for yourself. Hints for taking charge of yourself:
1.
Before you turn to another person for help, honestly
see if they have really helped themselves. Look for their wings, not at
their words.
2.
When you understand that no one really knows who they
are, you will stop looking to them to tell you who you are.
3.
Neither the approval nor the disapproval of any
individual or group makes any real difference in the quality of your life.
4.
People always want you to be who THEY want you to be
in order to please them. Be yourself and please yourself.
5.
99 people can approve of you, but if the
one-hundredth one scowls, your day is ruined. Anyway, why do you want the
approval of those who don’t even approve of themselves?
6.
When you know where you are going, you are free from
any concern over where anyone else is going.
7.
If you don’t leap, you’ll never know what it’s like
to fly.
8.
In daily contact with others, if you are not aware of
the other person’s weakness, they are probably aware of yours.
9.
If you are headed for the mountain top, why do you
care what the people in the valley are doing?
Wherever you find someone DEMANDING something you also find someone else
who is being forced or coerced to cooperate. No one DEMANDS something from
someone that would be freely given to them if they didn’t demand it. For
instance, we would never demand that someone love us. Either love is
given freely or it is not love. Let go of the secret life-draining
demands. For instance, we may demand of ourselves that we should:
1.
Be in complete control of everything around us
2.
Be an inspiration to all we meet
3.
Be ruthless in our honesty about others
4.
Be tireless in our efforts to succeed
5.
Be infallible in the eyes of others.
6.
Be a source of strength for the less fortunate
7.
Be rich, famous and eternally slim
8.
Be wise beyond doubt in all matters
9.
Be an important person
10.
Be all things to all people!
No one
accepts these demands by choice but through the darkness of ignorance. We
unconsciously place these punishing demands on ourselves because each of
us wants to be greater than we are. There is nothing wrong with wanting to
be a better person but trying to live up to the picture we have of ourself
as a better person DOES NOT make us better – it only makes us bitter about
every person and event that threatens this picture.
An
example is every time we feel resentful of someone who isn’t properly
appreciative of our helpful kindness. What this resentment shows is that
we really didn’t want to give our help in the first place. We feel forced
to do so by the picture we have of ourselves as being kind or helpful. One
reason is that we are afraid we are not good enough. We always resent
what we are unconsciously forced to do – including the painful act of
pretending to care for others whose only idea of caring for you is to
demand that you be the kind of person they can care for.
