Describe the glass as half full, not half empty. Try a change of vocabulary to shift from negative to positive

Negative                                               Positive

It’ll never work                                     Let's look at our alternatives

It’s how I am: I was born that way        I can try a different approach

They make me behave like that            I control my own feelings

It’s against the rules                             I'll invent a new rulebook

I’m forced to                                        I will choose

It’s just not me                                    What shall I try next?

In the real world…                                I make my world real by...

Another mistake                                   How interesting ..

If only….                                              Let's try ...

Never                                                   It's all experimental

In the final analysis, life's all experimental isn't it? On their deathbed, who ever wished that they had played safe? Mostly people regret what they didn't try, not what they did. Do you want to look back and regret the opportunities you missed?