Emotional Intelligence enables you to change, change other  individuals involved, and change destiny. Maintaining others' self-esteem is simple: clearly, honestly, openly, and early on, say what you will do and what you want others to do. Accept any undesirable responses or reactions for the time being. Turn up the emotional intelligence effort.

 Questions to ask yourself

	Do I understand the importance of the emotional side of life in the professional world?
	Do I see how just being brilliant isn't sufficient?
	Do I want to control my effect on others versus leaving it to chance?
	Am I willing to take full responsibility for my effect on others?
	Do I see the potential for "leapfrog" growth in my personal and professional life if I focus on emotional energy?
	Do I appreciate the use of good humor from others? Can't I do the same thing myself?
	Am I a good-natured, affable person?
	Do I have the guts to do what it takes to be effective, regardless of how uncomfortable I might feel?

The answer should be "yes" to all the above.

 Tools to fit the job at hand

	Maintain the self-esteem of people around you, both inside and outside of your professional life.
	Be thankful for jerks who teach you what you don't want to be, and help you grow into the person you do want to be.
	Check your book value today and recheck it every six months.
	Use humor as a leadership tool.
	Use affability as a leadership tool.
	Use boldness (of thought and action) as a leadership tool.
	The variety of targets possible
	Don't fear MISTAKES.
	To better sell yourself and your ideas, think before you talk.
	Whatever it is you're afraid to do (but know has to be done), go ahead and just do it.
	Be an effective executive who has mental, physical, and emotional energy.
	Make a contribution in every meeting or gathering you attend.
	Hone an excellent sense of humor.
	Solve problems in an affable manner, as opposed to running over everyone in your way.