1. Saying no is a career killer.
The real killers are way beyond your boss's control - like the economy or company performance. However, violating someone's trust or failing to delivery on a commitment: those are killers!

2. Saying yes, when we know it's silly or dysfunctional, is part of the game. We do it in the name of career advancement.
That quid pro quo disappeared long ago. Your boss's job is in as much jeopardy as yous. "Play the game" occasionally because you care about the people involved - because you know they'll be there for you when it counts. But not to advance your career.

3. Staying connected with networks is important. Saying no to a teammate takes me out of the Learning/Sharing Power Loop.
If you adopt the indirect approach to saying no, you will find that the new dialogue actually enhances relationships and the value you bring to the network.

4. My boss will never accept no. I'm stuck in a no-win situation.
The first part may or may not be true. The second part describes a choice you alone have made.

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