Shoulds are usually the signs of rules you have
made about life that were broken and result in emotional tension.
Just throw them all into the emotional laundry basket to be cleaned.
Whenever you expect something from someone, you
have acted upon a rule or belief you adopted in life. You are now making
a judgment about what is fair, right or should be according to that
arbitrary idea you've taken on. ALL beliefs are arbitrary.
Why not change your rules instead of blaming
someone else or getting angry? After all, just like you, they will do
what they do and think as they think.
You will also find that the "shoulds" disappear
when you are feeling confident. This power gives you ultimate
responsibility for your own beliefs and actions.
What do you want? How do you feel about a person,
lace, thing or issue? It is your right to have an opinion. It may be
valid today in your understanding of the world, then change tomorrow.
That too is your right as a conscious being as well as being a natural
process in growth and development.
This is where hindsight can become a hindrance. You
couldn't have done any better, since we all always do the best we
can at the very moment that we do it.
