- Power the desire to influence others
- Independence the desire for self-reliance
- Curiosity the desire for knowledge
- Acceptance the desire to be included
- Order the desire for organization
- Saving the desire to collect things or to save
- Honor - the desire to be loyal
- Idealism the desire for social justice
- Social Contact the desire for many connections
- Family the desire to raise ones own children, to have a system
for living
- Status the desire for social standing
- Winning the desire to compete
- Romance/Beauty the desire for sex and/or beauty, harmony, and high
quality
- Eating the desire to consume food (beyond the minimum needed for
survival)
- Vitality/health includes physical activity as well as self-care
- Tranquility the desire for emotional calm
These 16 values are not by any means equally important for
everyone. Some are highly important for some people and irrelevant for
others. The most effective way to clarify your values is to look at what
arises naturally out of your life context. Each person has his or her own
hierarchy of these motivators or values and in part this reflects the
importance of each desire for the persons happiness.
Each person experiences these 16 values differently. Our basic desires
are based on a mix of genetic origin and childhood influences the
proportions are not known. Most peoples values dont change much over
time we tend to have the same basic goals throughout life although the
ranking may change somewhat.
Curious children tend to become curious adults. People who have strong
appetites tend to struggle with their weight all their lives. People who
like to organize and plan things when they are adolescents will probably
still enjoy this when they are adults.
The hierarchy of your values is controlling the way you make decisions
in each moment. Some people value curiosity over acceptance, or status
over honor, or family over winning. Becoming more aware of what really
motivates you can illuminate your life and increase happiness.